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Welcome to Memories Instead of Things!


Tasha and Tavoris

 We are the Arnold’s!  We have an amazing family; My husband T, who I have spent the last  15+ years of my life with, my daughter, RiahLynn  (check out her blog here) and sons JaBo and TJ .


About Tasha

I’m Tasha! The main contributor to this blog.

Life has continuously thrown me curve balls.  I planned my adult life when I was a teen.

I knew I was going to attend Spelman College (I graduated, but that is a story for another post. lol), live in the city, become this great educator , have a huge house (bbbwwahhh on a teacher’s salary), get married, and have 2 kids all by the age of 25.

God must have gotten a good chuckle out of my plan.  I wasn’t totally wrong, but my timeline and order was waaaayyy off. As you can imagine, I have learned a lot of things along the way.  One of the most important lessons that I learned was to stop focusing on things.

I was consumed by having and giving things to my family. I found myself lost in those things.

One day God decided enough was enough. He literally laid me on my back for 6 weeks. I was on hospital bed rest with only 5 minutes to complete any tasks. 

Those weeks were the hardest weeks of my life. I learning two huge lessons within that time frame.

  1. I learned that my family was the most important and most neglected thing in my life.
  2. Life will go on even if I am not able to control all of the details.

I listened to what God taught me and I decided that it was time to focus on our memories instead of things.

 About the Blog

As a mom, I feel that we are often expected to move whatever mountain that forms in our paths.  I placed all of the stress on myself to get everything done.

As a mom working outside of the home full-time, I often would find the easy fixes for situations. I would throw money and/or “things” at each situation instead of taking the time to change patterns or carve out time.

This caused so many more issues to the point that I felt myself falling off the makeshift cliffs that I had built.  My kids of course loved being spoiled.  However, it created chaos within my relationship and myself.  

I had to start making decisions that were not only best for my family, but for ME as well!

Memories Instead of Things

I want this to blog inspire other working moms, inside and outside of the home, by documenting my progression from giving my family memories instead of things. 

I want to be able to help others through my experiences. You might learn something or enjoy the moments that we share.  Either way, I am glad you stopped by.

Get ready to enjoy your time with us.

 You are always welcome to join our memories!

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